Do: Greet People Politely
“Selamat pagi” (Good morning), “Selamat siang” (Good afternoon), “Selamat sore” (Good evening)
Use “Apa kabar?” (How are you?) to start a friendly conversation
Why it works: Greetings are important in Indonesian culture. Even a simple “hello” accompanied by a smile shows respect and friendliness.
Tip: Always use a polite tone and try to match the local rhythm of speech. Overly loud or rushed greetings can feel jarring.

Don’t: Point With Your Finger
In Indonesia, pointing directly at someone can be considered rude or confrontational. Instead, use your thumb or whole hand when gesturing.
Oh-no moment: Pointing at a street vendor to order food might make them raise an eyebrow — subtlety goes a long way.

Tip: Gestures are fine, just be gentle and polite.

Do: Dress Respectfully in Certain Areas
Jakarta is mostly modern and relaxed, but religious sites like mosques require modest clothing. Cover shoulders, knees, and avoid revealing attire.
Why it works: Respecting dress codes shows cultural sensitivity and avoids unwanted attention.

Tip: Carry a lightweight scarf or shawl — it’s handy for sudden visits to temples or mosques.

Don’t: Touch Heads
The head is considered the most sacred part of the body in Indonesian culture. Avoid touching children’s heads or anyone’s head without permission.
Oh-no moment: Patting a child on the head might make parents uneasy.

Tip: Stick to handshakes or polite nods.

Do: Use Your Right Hand
When giving or receiving something, use your right hand or both hands. The left hand is considered unclean for formal or polite exchanges.
Why it works: Whether handing over money, gifts, or even shaking hands, using the right hand shows respect.

Tip: If you accidentally use your left, a small smile and apology usually smooths things over.

Don’t: Show Anger or Raise Your Voice
Indonesians value harmony and politeness. Losing your temper or speaking loudly in public is frowned upon.
Oh-no moment: Arguing with a taxi driver or vendor in public can escalate tension and attract unwanted attention.

Tip: Smile, remain calm, and negotiate politely.

Do: Remove Shoes Indoors
In many homes, traditional restaurants, and religious sites, you are expected to remove your shoes before entering.
Why it works: It keeps spaces clean and respects local customs.

Tip: Carry socks or wear clean shoes that are easy to slip off.

Don’t: Point Your Feet
Feet are considered the lowest part of the body. Avoid pointing them at people, religious statues, or tables where food is served.
Oh-no moment: Resting your feet on chairs or pointing at someone during conversation is considered disrespectful.

Tip: Sit cross-legged or tuck your feet neatly when seated on the floor.

Do: Bargain Politely at Markets
Jakarta’s markets welcome friendly bargaining, but it should be done with a smile and good humor.
Why it works: It’s part of the culture, and sellers enjoy the interaction as long as it’s polite.

Tip: Start by offering 50–70% of the asking price and negotiate calmly. Avoid aggressive haggling.

Don’t: Public Displays of Affection
While casual hand-holding is increasingly accepted among couples, kissing in public or overt displays of affection are frowned upon in many areas.
Oh-no moment: Hugging and kissing in front of older locals or in religious areas might attract disapproving looks.

Tip: Keep it subtle and save affection for private spaces.

Do: Try Local Customs and Food
Indonesians love sharing their culture. Participate in local traditions, try street food, and join in festivals if invited.
Why it works: Engaging respectfully with local customs builds trust and makes your experience memorable.

Tip: Say “Enak!” (delicious) after tasting something — it’s a simple compliment that locals appreciate.

Don’t: Ignore Ramadan or Religious Practices
During Ramadan, avoid eating or drinking in public during daylight hours in Muslim-majority areas.
Oh-no moment: Drinking a soda on the street during fasting hours may draw disapproving stares.

Tip: Carry snacks discreetly or wait until evening if you need a drink or snack.

Do: Use Polite Titles and Terms
Addressing elders or strangers with “Pak” (Mr.) or “Bu” (Mrs./Ms.) is polite.
Why it works: Titles demonstrate respect and show you understand local social etiquette.

Tip: Combine with a greeting for maximum effect: “Selamat pagi, Pak!”

Don’t: Expect Everyone to Speak English
While many younger Indonesians know some English, not everyone does. Assume Bahasa Indonesia first and use simple words.
Oh-no moment: Speaking loudly in English and expecting immediate understanding may frustrate both parties.

Tip: Learn a few basic phrases or carry a translation app — even a small effort is noticed and appreciated.